In
The Void
Funny, Partha and I get to start our blogs on the same topic, DEATH!
But I'm talking about an entirely different aspect. Birth of a new relation over the death of an old one.
Consider the death of a really close friend. Obvious, that is not the end of the relationship between that person and you, friendship never ends, all it does is create a void. A huge ground zero, when you so badly wish that the two of you were still standing together. A vacuum, a huge emptiness. Some wide hole that pulls you as if you're weighed down with lead. You stare into it with a false hope, that they'd return. Sickening it does feel, this void! But this void is actually a splendid presence. As you feel depressed, you tend to be dependent, search for support. Something to rest upon, a shoulder to lay on, a ear to lend, to let all the tears flow, to lighten yourself. Searching for that someone, you find new friends, or maybe just discover something different in your good ol' buddies.
In case its an entirely new person, you tend to create an entirely new relation. They empathize with you initially. The trust builds on. This new bond grew because of that inital void. The new bond falls in and tries to cover up this gap. Something like, to satisfy an empty stomach. This very same void also decides how strong the relation would hold. The depthness of it. The stronger the vacuum, the emptier the void, stronger and much deeper the new relation. The feeling of being really well attached and close with that stranger springs up. You mostly wouldn't notice. They help you feel better, smile and regard that incident on a much smoother accord. In the end, you become stronger, thanks to them!
So, when someone dies, they break a well recognised bond, but eventually create many more, stronger, closer ones. You might sum up all that I want to say as, God forbid, if anyone close, passes away, go search for a shoulder, someone to cry on. Who knows? You might find someone so close, so trustworthy, someone who might even be your soulmate!
